You often hear someone describing something as a grounding force. I have never heard this term used in a negative context except maybe when discussing a plane. It is also becoming more widely known that being a grounded person helps you in your daily life. It stands to reason that it would because what being "grounded" means is having your consciousness solidly in your body. With the exciting idea of astral travel floating around the new age world (pun entirely intended) we think of being out of our body as being more spiritual. It would seem that being less body and more spirit is the very definition of spiritual. Not true, says I! The ultimate state of being is in the flow, and for that to take place your mind, body, heart and spirit all have to be in alignment. So anchoring your spirit or your consciousness to your body is a damned good thing.
Being grounded in your body is much like having your aura the right size, it will make you feel more here to you and everyone around you. It also helps that inner voice that tells you that you are about to lock your keys in your car get louder. Being grounded can help increase confidence levels, improve all kinds of performance (acting as well as on the job), and it can improve your cognitive thinking. It can even aid you in seeing clairvoyantly. What?! You heard me. Of course that's why I'm writing about it here in this blog.
Take my word for it, it rocks and so will you once you become grounded. With that kind of payoff, why would you not try it?!
Reading people in your life
I know some people are born so aware of their own clairvoyance that it is the way that they have always been. I must have been talked out of believing what I saw very early in life because I have memories all of the way back to under 2 years old and I don't remember seeing or sensing or any of that.
So my clairvoyant awakening as an adult was like a blind person getting sight, well maybe not that dramatic, but it changed my life in every way. I found that at first I wanted to tell everyone. Then pretty quickly I wanted to tell no one because when I did tell some people they started acting like I said I was a cop. As if what I had stumbled into made me capable of reading everyone's every thought. Here's what people who think that don't get; why would I want to?
Granted you do pick up the stray thought here and there, some people think really loudly. But more than reading people's thoughts, I like to read their eyes. I can tell by looking at someone's eyes (it's best in a picture, then I don't freak them out) what kind of person they are. I don't get real specifics, but I do get important information like; do they have an anger issue, are they generally happy, are they genuine, do they have a loving heart, are they filled with fear, are they overly guarded, how they felt about the person taking the picture, etc. It's a lot of fun. Even though I am reading their eyes, I need to see their whole face so I can see how their eyes relate to their smile, or lack there of.
When I was first dating my husband it was really casual. He was funny and I liked spending time with him. But the first time I looked at our energy together I knew that we would be married. I had a taste of it the night we met. It was New Years Eve and I was on a liver cleanse so I wasn't drinking. He had a few beers, but nothing major. At the end of the evening I was looking for a place to sit, we had barely just met and he offered to move over and let me sit next to him on the couch. As I went to sit he put his hand on my back to help me. That alone would have surprised me if I hadn't been distracted by the energy I could feel coming from his hand. It was the most intimate, comfortable, loving, euphoric feeling. It felt like home and love and joy and all things wonderful. I actually gasped. Luckily he didn't hear me. As I sat next to him watching the band on the tv perform some 80s hit (can't remember what it was) I could feel the same energy wafting over me from him. It was intoxicating. We laughed and talked 80s movies and the night ended and I went home. I got the feeling that he was interested in me though and I could just tell that he wasn't going to make a move. So I emailed the party's hostess the following work day and asked her to tell the "funny guy from the couch" to call or email me (I'd forgotten his name). He did and the rest is history. I don't know if I would have picked up on the pieces that made me follow through and pursue him if I hadn't been so aware of energy. Anyone who knows us knows that we are so made for each other, but much of that comes from the surprises that I found when I looked deeper.
I'm not saying, enhance your clairvoyance, meet the love of your life, but maybe I am saying that. It stands to reason that it happened that way for me.
Sometimes reading people or situations doesn't lead you to make the right choice though because I have been there too. I have heard a loud voice in my head saying, "this is going to go bad" and I chose not to listen to it. Let me say that time that I am speaking of went REALLY BAD. However if I had listened to that voice and not followed that path, I wouldn't have been in the right place at the right time to meet my husband. Or would I? There's honestly no way of knowing. We can look at the potential and see what was likely and what might have happened, but the energy gets harder to look at the more maybe's you throw into it. Not to mention that, why? Why waste your time looking at what might have or might not have happened if you made a choice that you didn't make? It's absurd and not good for you. I like what Byron Katie says when people say something should or shouldn't have happened, she says, "did it? Then it should have. If it's what happened then it was what had to happen." It's hard to feel that to be true when you are in pain, but that doesn't make it untrue.
I guess when it comes to reading people in your life the biggest bit of advice I can give you is keep it to yourself unless their is an appropriate moment. I didn't tell my husband that thing about the party until after I'd already outed myself as one of the psychic kind. He never had to be talked into believing me and he accepted it pretty quickly, I was lucky. I think that he was so ok with it because I waited for him to know me and trust that I wasn't a kook.
I would love to hear anyone's stories about when they've read someone in their life and how it went, if you have one please post it!
So my clairvoyant awakening as an adult was like a blind person getting sight, well maybe not that dramatic, but it changed my life in every way. I found that at first I wanted to tell everyone. Then pretty quickly I wanted to tell no one because when I did tell some people they started acting like I said I was a cop. As if what I had stumbled into made me capable of reading everyone's every thought. Here's what people who think that don't get; why would I want to?
Granted you do pick up the stray thought here and there, some people think really loudly. But more than reading people's thoughts, I like to read their eyes. I can tell by looking at someone's eyes (it's best in a picture, then I don't freak them out) what kind of person they are. I don't get real specifics, but I do get important information like; do they have an anger issue, are they generally happy, are they genuine, do they have a loving heart, are they filled with fear, are they overly guarded, how they felt about the person taking the picture, etc. It's a lot of fun. Even though I am reading their eyes, I need to see their whole face so I can see how their eyes relate to their smile, or lack there of.
When I was first dating my husband it was really casual. He was funny and I liked spending time with him. But the first time I looked at our energy together I knew that we would be married. I had a taste of it the night we met. It was New Years Eve and I was on a liver cleanse so I wasn't drinking. He had a few beers, but nothing major. At the end of the evening I was looking for a place to sit, we had barely just met and he offered to move over and let me sit next to him on the couch. As I went to sit he put his hand on my back to help me. That alone would have surprised me if I hadn't been distracted by the energy I could feel coming from his hand. It was the most intimate, comfortable, loving, euphoric feeling. It felt like home and love and joy and all things wonderful. I actually gasped. Luckily he didn't hear me. As I sat next to him watching the band on the tv perform some 80s hit (can't remember what it was) I could feel the same energy wafting over me from him. It was intoxicating. We laughed and talked 80s movies and the night ended and I went home. I got the feeling that he was interested in me though and I could just tell that he wasn't going to make a move. So I emailed the party's hostess the following work day and asked her to tell the "funny guy from the couch" to call or email me (I'd forgotten his name). He did and the rest is history. I don't know if I would have picked up on the pieces that made me follow through and pursue him if I hadn't been so aware of energy. Anyone who knows us knows that we are so made for each other, but much of that comes from the surprises that I found when I looked deeper.
I'm not saying, enhance your clairvoyance, meet the love of your life, but maybe I am saying that. It stands to reason that it happened that way for me.
Sometimes reading people or situations doesn't lead you to make the right choice though because I have been there too. I have heard a loud voice in my head saying, "this is going to go bad" and I chose not to listen to it. Let me say that time that I am speaking of went REALLY BAD. However if I had listened to that voice and not followed that path, I wouldn't have been in the right place at the right time to meet my husband. Or would I? There's honestly no way of knowing. We can look at the potential and see what was likely and what might have happened, but the energy gets harder to look at the more maybe's you throw into it. Not to mention that, why? Why waste your time looking at what might have or might not have happened if you made a choice that you didn't make? It's absurd and not good for you. I like what Byron Katie says when people say something should or shouldn't have happened, she says, "did it? Then it should have. If it's what happened then it was what had to happen." It's hard to feel that to be true when you are in pain, but that doesn't make it untrue.
I guess when it comes to reading people in your life the biggest bit of advice I can give you is keep it to yourself unless their is an appropriate moment. I didn't tell my husband that thing about the party until after I'd already outed myself as one of the psychic kind. He never had to be talked into believing me and he accepted it pretty quickly, I was lucky. I think that he was so ok with it because I waited for him to know me and trust that I wasn't a kook.
I would love to hear anyone's stories about when they've read someone in their life and how it went, if you have one please post it!
Karma Chameleon
I am currently writing a thesis paper for my Masters degree in Metaphysical Science, I have chosen the topic of Karma. I am learning so much and I'm not even done with all of my research yet!
First of all I found out that according to the Hindu religion, which is where the concept gained popularity, karma is the deed you do, not the outcome of the deed. We all think that karma is the consequence when it's the action that causes the consequence. So in essence "good karma" to a Hindu isn't a reward it's action that you do like charitable giving or helping a neighbor. They do believe that these deeds will be rewarded in either this life or the next one.
Now the Buddhists don't believe in good karma vs. bad karma, they just believe every cause has an effect and we label them good or bad based on if it's the effect we wanted (which they don't think is a very evolved thing to do). I'm with the Buddhists on this one. Karma is like the law of attraction, it doesn't have a judging will of it's own. It's not doled out by some higher being based on your worthiness. There is no favoritism when it comes to karma. Also like the law of attraction, we have little way of knowing when either will pay their cosmic dividend.
In reference to the good vs. bad idea, there is an old Zen (I think) story that goes like this: A man in the village is telling the wise man a story about a windfall he gets of a neighbor's horse. The villager says to the wise man, "isn't that fortunate?!" and the wise man says, "we'll see". The villager's son falls off the horse while riding it and breaks his leg, the villager says to the wise man, "isn't that unfortunate?!" and the wise man says, "we'll see". Then war breaks out in the area and the boy can't go to fight and risk his life because of the broken leg so the villager says to the wise man, "isn't that fortunate?!" and the wise man says, "we'll see."
I always feel that this story is trying to tell us that labeling things good and bad is a waste of our time and unnecessary. This really applies to karma. The idea of karma isn't to reap as many rewards as possible while avoiding punishment, it's meant to teach you how to live a good life. The best karma is no karma at all. You don't incur karma (which as I've come to see it, wrong or not, as a lesson that our spirit wants us to learn for our own peace and happiness) when you approach a situation selflessly and make the choice that supports your spirit. It's the ego that wants the "good karma", it's the spirit that wants no karma.
As a clairvoyant I can see karmic connections sometimes. Ones I have to others, ones others have to each other and it's never punitive, it's informative. It exists because your spirit is clear that you didn't understand the lesson when presented in another way and it's just trying a different approach. When I say lesson I don't mean "you need to be taught a lesson" in the punitive sense. I mean that when you sign up for human class there are things that are on the syllabus you have to master in order to pass that class, these are your lessons and karma is part of that.
So when I've talked about feeling different about the past through energy work, this is in part what I am talking about. You can watch a movie of the lesson with your clairvoyance as well as use it to learn the lesson because with clairvoyance it's like an open book test. Sure you can do it in the world as well with some varying degree of difficulty and success, but why not do as much as you can the easier way.
So, now on to more research for my paper.
First of all I found out that according to the Hindu religion, which is where the concept gained popularity, karma is the deed you do, not the outcome of the deed. We all think that karma is the consequence when it's the action that causes the consequence. So in essence "good karma" to a Hindu isn't a reward it's action that you do like charitable giving or helping a neighbor. They do believe that these deeds will be rewarded in either this life or the next one.
Now the Buddhists don't believe in good karma vs. bad karma, they just believe every cause has an effect and we label them good or bad based on if it's the effect we wanted (which they don't think is a very evolved thing to do). I'm with the Buddhists on this one. Karma is like the law of attraction, it doesn't have a judging will of it's own. It's not doled out by some higher being based on your worthiness. There is no favoritism when it comes to karma. Also like the law of attraction, we have little way of knowing when either will pay their cosmic dividend.
In reference to the good vs. bad idea, there is an old Zen (I think) story that goes like this: A man in the village is telling the wise man a story about a windfall he gets of a neighbor's horse. The villager says to the wise man, "isn't that fortunate?!" and the wise man says, "we'll see". The villager's son falls off the horse while riding it and breaks his leg, the villager says to the wise man, "isn't that unfortunate?!" and the wise man says, "we'll see". Then war breaks out in the area and the boy can't go to fight and risk his life because of the broken leg so the villager says to the wise man, "isn't that fortunate?!" and the wise man says, "we'll see."
I always feel that this story is trying to tell us that labeling things good and bad is a waste of our time and unnecessary. This really applies to karma. The idea of karma isn't to reap as many rewards as possible while avoiding punishment, it's meant to teach you how to live a good life. The best karma is no karma at all. You don't incur karma (which as I've come to see it, wrong or not, as a lesson that our spirit wants us to learn for our own peace and happiness) when you approach a situation selflessly and make the choice that supports your spirit. It's the ego that wants the "good karma", it's the spirit that wants no karma.
As a clairvoyant I can see karmic connections sometimes. Ones I have to others, ones others have to each other and it's never punitive, it's informative. It exists because your spirit is clear that you didn't understand the lesson when presented in another way and it's just trying a different approach. When I say lesson I don't mean "you need to be taught a lesson" in the punitive sense. I mean that when you sign up for human class there are things that are on the syllabus you have to master in order to pass that class, these are your lessons and karma is part of that.
So when I've talked about feeling different about the past through energy work, this is in part what I am talking about. You can watch a movie of the lesson with your clairvoyance as well as use it to learn the lesson because with clairvoyance it's like an open book test. Sure you can do it in the world as well with some varying degree of difficulty and success, but why not do as much as you can the easier way.
So, now on to more research for my paper.
Auras, what's up with that?
A common question for a lot of clairvoyants is "what color is my aura?" People ask this thinking that if it's blue, that is who you are: a blue aura person. This is not how I see it. Your aura changes color with your mood or with what you are going through in your life. Each color represents an emotion or activity or state of mind/heart. Most colors have universal vibrations that most of us feel the same way, but not categorically. A lot of people see red as passion, but I see it as pain or in survival mode. I see fuchsia as passion because it is infused with the life force energy of red along with the love of pink. I also see compassion as a peachy pink instead of just pink because yellow to me is the color of joy. I see compassion as being a mix of the love of life and love in general.
A lot more than just the color of your aura is important. You might have it pulled to close to you. This would cause people to not really "see" you. You might get cut in front of in line, cut off in traffic or be ignored in discussions of groups. I have pulled my aura in too close intentionally to see what it feels like and my ears ring and I feel a little dizzy, it's really trippy.
If you have it too big your energy gets all over everyone around you. This is very intrusive and obnoxious. If you are at a party and trying to be the center of it, your aura would be very big. People who always have to have everyone in the meeting hear and laugh at their dumb jokes have large auras. That obnoxious neighbor who keeps you at the door too long and talks too loud even when you tell them that your dinner is burning has a huge aura. Making my aura big on purpose makes me feel like I'm naked and alone in a gymnasium. Not my favorite feeling in the world. The right distance is about 12 inches all of the way around your body.
Another important factor about your aura is what isn't it covering? I found that when I first started doing this work I would subconsciously pull my aura too close to the top of my head. The crown chakra is the one on the top of your head (surprisingly on the crown of your head). It is associated with and creates your connection with your spirit and spirituality as well as spiritual groups. It is also known as the free will chakra. When a cult wants to control it's followers the leader plugs a cord of energy into this chakra which is why cult always deal with a level of spirituality. More on cords in a later post. My point is that I was shy about letting the world know of my new found spiritual path so I was trying to hide it by pulling my aura in really close to my head. I got really bad headaches during this time.
You can also have your aura pulled up above your feet. This causes you to make bad decisions, be impractical with money and it can even make you clumsy. Your feet are your connection to this world and if you are trying to avoid something you will try to be disconnected so that you can claim you just didn't know. All of this is subconsciously of course.
If your aura is too close to your back it may be a sign that you are afraid of your past or your burdens. Wherever your aura isn't, that is what you trying to avoid and energy work and seeing energy is almost always very literal. Our minds are literal, so the symbols we see tend to be. Or at least that is how it works for me.
You can have other people's energy in your aura which would affect the color and size. This is how a lot of sensitive people end up feeling someone else's pain. Some of us, and really all of us at some time, throw our energy at other people. We don't do it on purpose, unless we do. When we are in a parking lot and the person walking in front of our car with their cart is going snail pace slow you are probably going to throw a "hurry up!" at them. If they are ungrounded or have their aura pulled up above their feet they will continue to take their time. I don't know about you but I can feel people behind me that want me to walk faster. It feels like they are going to walk right over the top of me. Makes my skin crawl.
There is a couple of aura meditations coming up, so stay tuned...
A lot more than just the color of your aura is important. You might have it pulled to close to you. This would cause people to not really "see" you. You might get cut in front of in line, cut off in traffic or be ignored in discussions of groups. I have pulled my aura in too close intentionally to see what it feels like and my ears ring and I feel a little dizzy, it's really trippy.
If you have it too big your energy gets all over everyone around you. This is very intrusive and obnoxious. If you are at a party and trying to be the center of it, your aura would be very big. People who always have to have everyone in the meeting hear and laugh at their dumb jokes have large auras. That obnoxious neighbor who keeps you at the door too long and talks too loud even when you tell them that your dinner is burning has a huge aura. Making my aura big on purpose makes me feel like I'm naked and alone in a gymnasium. Not my favorite feeling in the world. The right distance is about 12 inches all of the way around your body.
Another important factor about your aura is what isn't it covering? I found that when I first started doing this work I would subconsciously pull my aura too close to the top of my head. The crown chakra is the one on the top of your head (surprisingly on the crown of your head). It is associated with and creates your connection with your spirit and spirituality as well as spiritual groups. It is also known as the free will chakra. When a cult wants to control it's followers the leader plugs a cord of energy into this chakra which is why cult always deal with a level of spirituality. More on cords in a later post. My point is that I was shy about letting the world know of my new found spiritual path so I was trying to hide it by pulling my aura in really close to my head. I got really bad headaches during this time.
You can also have your aura pulled up above your feet. This causes you to make bad decisions, be impractical with money and it can even make you clumsy. Your feet are your connection to this world and if you are trying to avoid something you will try to be disconnected so that you can claim you just didn't know. All of this is subconsciously of course.
If your aura is too close to your back it may be a sign that you are afraid of your past or your burdens. Wherever your aura isn't, that is what you trying to avoid and energy work and seeing energy is almost always very literal. Our minds are literal, so the symbols we see tend to be. Or at least that is how it works for me.
You can have other people's energy in your aura which would affect the color and size. This is how a lot of sensitive people end up feeling someone else's pain. Some of us, and really all of us at some time, throw our energy at other people. We don't do it on purpose, unless we do. When we are in a parking lot and the person walking in front of our car with their cart is going snail pace slow you are probably going to throw a "hurry up!" at them. If they are ungrounded or have their aura pulled up above their feet they will continue to take their time. I don't know about you but I can feel people behind me that want me to walk faster. It feels like they are going to walk right over the top of me. Makes my skin crawl.
There is a couple of aura meditations coming up, so stay tuned...
Creation vs. Prediction
When I was younger I would have thought that the best thing about being clairvoyant is knowing what is going to happen, I couldn't have been more wrong. I will admit having a heads up on occasion is pretty cool, but I think if I knew too much I would either be sad or bored. See we tend to think that knowing what is coming up will afford us some kind of advantage and it sometimes does, but most often we don't like what is coming. It's easy to get caught up in the idea that we are going to see something great because we want something great to happen, but just being able to see what is coming isn't the same as being able to control what it will be.
I used to have a client who would ask when the man she loved was going to leave his wife. I never saw him leaving, but she would ask this EVERY READING! And I read for her once a week for about 6 months. It was nice to have a steady client, but I started running out of ways to tell her that what she wanted to happen wasn't what I was seeing. I tried to explain to her that her time with me would be better spent having me help her shift the energy that had her irrationally hung up on a married man. There was some karma there that she was not willing to look at because she was addicted to the idea that if she just looked long enough and wanted it bad enough that it would happen.
I really hate this part of a reading, when a person is so stuck on an idea that they just can't hear what you are saying. They think that by rephrasing the question or asking it in a slightly different way that the future will be tricked or that I just wasn't looking at it hard enough or in the right way. When a client tells me what they want to look at I watch their energy as they talk about it and I get way more about what is really going on for them emotionally than what their words say.
One of the things I like to hear when I've delivered less than positive news is, "what can I do to keep it from happening" or "what do I do if it does?" These are take action questions and it gives me a chance to actually help them. The ones who keep asking the same thing over and over hoping for a different answer are people who let life happen to them and are afraid to take the bull by the horns. I often say, "you want a different answer, ask a different girl" because very few things can wake them up. You see they don't know that they are letting life happen to them because that is the nature of having your head in the sand, you don't know it's in there. Don't get me wrong these are still some of the most intelligent people you might meet, but they are not living, they are getting lived. I should know, I used to be one of them.
When I started looking at my own energy and seeing the issues I had as, "okay, I have that, now what? Why is it that way? How can I make it be the way that I know will make me happy?" I found that I had the option to drive my life way more than I had ever imagined. I don't mean being a control freak and I also don't mean that the idea of doing that was my own. I ended up learning how to read and shift energy because life happened to me and dumped me somewhere that I got a chance to learn that. Sure it was my higher self doing the driving in that case but it was through no conscious effort on my part. I would still be stumbling blindly through life had I not made a handful of important decisions that seemed unimportant at the time. My point is I was lost and then was found, was blind but now I see!
The reason this is called Creation vs. Prediction is that when you get a reading you have the opportunity to ask your reader how you can become the best version of yourself instead of only asking what is going to happen and you will find what is going to happen gets less and less important. Once you are who you want to be and are meant to be you are happy. And once you are happy you can handle whatever happens. Happy people are magnetic for one thing. My ex-husband once said to me after we had split and were still friends, "I finally know what kind of woman I am attracted to ... happy ones."
Happy people are people who are responsible for their own happiness and don't need you to provide it for them. So who wouldn't want to be around a happy person? Who wouldn't want to be a happy person? Being a happy person is like having pump your own gas stations with fast pay (sorry Oregonians, this one only works if you live in a pump your own state - or travel). You aren't relying on the attendant or the cashier to take care of your fueling needs. You are free to pull up, slide your card, pump your gas and go! I love that! I am not obligated to smile at anyone, talk, or wait. I can even wash my own windows if it's what I want, FREEDOM! Maybe it's because I grew up in Oregon that this is such liberation, but that is what being a happy person gives you: liberation. And being able to see your own energy and do something about it when it just ain't quite right is one of the keys to that liberation. Can I get an Amen!
I feel I may have gotten a little off topic with that whole "pump your own" thing, but I feel really strongly about taking your life by the wheel. I'm not saying that you will only be happy forever more. And I'm also saying that you might need to be brave about things you see and hear. I got messages that my wonderful cat Ira was about to pass about a week before it happened. There was nothing I could do and the grief overwhelmed me for a time, but I at least had a little time to prepare my heart for the pain. It really taught me a lot about letting go.
Most of the time the only bravery that I have to put on is the kind that it takes to really look at yourself in an honest yet gentle way. If every time you look at a trait of yours as a fault, you are having trouble being honest yet gentle. You are doing yourself a disservice if every time you try to figure out why you talk a lot (those who know me, know this is a personal one) and instead of getting to the heart of any issues you just sit there feeling bad for all of the times that you talked someones ear off. Yes, this trait has been a barrier to connecting with people sometimes, but the only way to keep it from happening again is to get at the heart of why it happens. You can't change the past, but you can change how you feel about it and that is really where the power is anyway. It's your feeling about what has happened in the past that plagues you. Seeing yourself clairvoyantly gives you compassion for why you did what you did.
I always tell a certain someone in my life who is way too hard on herself that she is always doing the best she can. Even when we fail we are trying and that does count for something. We are all doing our best and hindsight is 20/20. It's just so easy to decide that you should have been perfect when you are out of the situation. When you do this to yourself are you realizing that being perfect in the situation was most likely what you were trying to do and just missed the mark? It's worth looking into why you think being this hard on yourself is how you deserve to be treated. If you treated someone else like that, they wouldn't stick around long.
So who do you want to be? It's in your hands and you can choose to let go of the things that stand in your way. It's all up to you...
I used to have a client who would ask when the man she loved was going to leave his wife. I never saw him leaving, but she would ask this EVERY READING! And I read for her once a week for about 6 months. It was nice to have a steady client, but I started running out of ways to tell her that what she wanted to happen wasn't what I was seeing. I tried to explain to her that her time with me would be better spent having me help her shift the energy that had her irrationally hung up on a married man. There was some karma there that she was not willing to look at because she was addicted to the idea that if she just looked long enough and wanted it bad enough that it would happen.
I really hate this part of a reading, when a person is so stuck on an idea that they just can't hear what you are saying. They think that by rephrasing the question or asking it in a slightly different way that the future will be tricked or that I just wasn't looking at it hard enough or in the right way. When a client tells me what they want to look at I watch their energy as they talk about it and I get way more about what is really going on for them emotionally than what their words say.
One of the things I like to hear when I've delivered less than positive news is, "what can I do to keep it from happening" or "what do I do if it does?" These are take action questions and it gives me a chance to actually help them. The ones who keep asking the same thing over and over hoping for a different answer are people who let life happen to them and are afraid to take the bull by the horns. I often say, "you want a different answer, ask a different girl" because very few things can wake them up. You see they don't know that they are letting life happen to them because that is the nature of having your head in the sand, you don't know it's in there. Don't get me wrong these are still some of the most intelligent people you might meet, but they are not living, they are getting lived. I should know, I used to be one of them.
When I started looking at my own energy and seeing the issues I had as, "okay, I have that, now what? Why is it that way? How can I make it be the way that I know will make me happy?" I found that I had the option to drive my life way more than I had ever imagined. I don't mean being a control freak and I also don't mean that the idea of doing that was my own. I ended up learning how to read and shift energy because life happened to me and dumped me somewhere that I got a chance to learn that. Sure it was my higher self doing the driving in that case but it was through no conscious effort on my part. I would still be stumbling blindly through life had I not made a handful of important decisions that seemed unimportant at the time. My point is I was lost and then was found, was blind but now I see!
The reason this is called Creation vs. Prediction is that when you get a reading you have the opportunity to ask your reader how you can become the best version of yourself instead of only asking what is going to happen and you will find what is going to happen gets less and less important. Once you are who you want to be and are meant to be you are happy. And once you are happy you can handle whatever happens. Happy people are magnetic for one thing. My ex-husband once said to me after we had split and were still friends, "I finally know what kind of woman I am attracted to ... happy ones."
Happy people are people who are responsible for their own happiness and don't need you to provide it for them. So who wouldn't want to be around a happy person? Who wouldn't want to be a happy person? Being a happy person is like having pump your own gas stations with fast pay (sorry Oregonians, this one only works if you live in a pump your own state - or travel). You aren't relying on the attendant or the cashier to take care of your fueling needs. You are free to pull up, slide your card, pump your gas and go! I love that! I am not obligated to smile at anyone, talk, or wait. I can even wash my own windows if it's what I want, FREEDOM! Maybe it's because I grew up in Oregon that this is such liberation, but that is what being a happy person gives you: liberation. And being able to see your own energy and do something about it when it just ain't quite right is one of the keys to that liberation. Can I get an Amen!
I feel I may have gotten a little off topic with that whole "pump your own" thing, but I feel really strongly about taking your life by the wheel. I'm not saying that you will only be happy forever more. And I'm also saying that you might need to be brave about things you see and hear. I got messages that my wonderful cat Ira was about to pass about a week before it happened. There was nothing I could do and the grief overwhelmed me for a time, but I at least had a little time to prepare my heart for the pain. It really taught me a lot about letting go.
Most of the time the only bravery that I have to put on is the kind that it takes to really look at yourself in an honest yet gentle way. If every time you look at a trait of yours as a fault, you are having trouble being honest yet gentle. You are doing yourself a disservice if every time you try to figure out why you talk a lot (those who know me, know this is a personal one) and instead of getting to the heart of any issues you just sit there feeling bad for all of the times that you talked someones ear off. Yes, this trait has been a barrier to connecting with people sometimes, but the only way to keep it from happening again is to get at the heart of why it happens. You can't change the past, but you can change how you feel about it and that is really where the power is anyway. It's your feeling about what has happened in the past that plagues you. Seeing yourself clairvoyantly gives you compassion for why you did what you did.
I always tell a certain someone in my life who is way too hard on herself that she is always doing the best she can. Even when we fail we are trying and that does count for something. We are all doing our best and hindsight is 20/20. It's just so easy to decide that you should have been perfect when you are out of the situation. When you do this to yourself are you realizing that being perfect in the situation was most likely what you were trying to do and just missed the mark? It's worth looking into why you think being this hard on yourself is how you deserve to be treated. If you treated someone else like that, they wouldn't stick around long.
So who do you want to be? It's in your hands and you can choose to let go of the things that stand in your way. It's all up to you...
The Secret about The Secret
Everyone is all a flutter about The Secret, or at least they were. And why wouldn't they be. A lot of people just saw the secret as, if I say I want a Porche, one will show up and by mine. Have you really never wished for a Porche before? There is so much that was left out of The Secret and it has to do with energy work.
Okay, so you wished for a Porche and it didn't show up, why not. It's not just about positive thinking, which by the way is next to impossible to control. It's about positive FEELING. There is another book worth checking out call Blink by Malcolm Gladwell. Mr. Gladwell tells about how our brain works, we make snap judgments with more authentic emotion about how we really feel in less than the blink of an eye. Try controlling that! So you look at a Porche and all of the subconscious things you feel about your worthiness, money, status symbols and so on flood in and you try to override that with one happy thought that you think you should feel but really don't. Now where's my Porche? See what I mean?
Now what you need to do is look clairvoyantly at all of the beliefs that you have about why you don't have a Porche, don't deserve a Porche, don't want to be one of "those" people and shift them. Make way for beliefs about why you do have a Porche. You have to get really honest with yourself about how you really feel about owning a Porche. You may need to do this several times over as new beliefs might bubble up after you shift out the old ones.
There is another additional technique from Lynn Grabhorn that I really like in her book, Excuse Me Your Life is Waiting. She tells about making your energy vibrate at a joyful level and attaching that feeling to the things that you are trying to attract. She even has you speak aloud in the third person as if you are excitedly telling a friend about what happened. "Molly was so thrilled to see that book advance check in the mail that she went out and bought a yellow Porche! Because she just loves yellow!" and so on. She has you imagine that you are in love when you are doing this joyful talking because it is a natural very high vibration.
I did this technique in addition to other techniques to attract my husband. It worked and he is wonderful. But I didn't just try to attract him, I tried to be ready when he got here. I looked at all of the reasons my past relationships hadn't worked, I focused on what beliefs I had about myself and what I was afraid of. To be honest I did this joyful talking thing only three times because I found that forcing yourself to feel excited makes you feel really low later, like you are drawing from a finite source. Or at least that's what happened to me.
I also found that it's really hard to generate that joyful energy when you don't really want the thing you are trying to attract but don't realize it. Like if you want a job because you need a job, but you don't really WANT a job. If you do find this happening, take note and try to figure out what it is that you do really want.
Forcing myself to be joyful while talking about the future and finding that it drained me also really helped me to let it go which is the final key that they really under emphasized in The Secret. Letting go is so important because it keeps you from being anxious. Remember that earlier post when I said that I saw something interesting about anxious energy and how it relates to manifesting? Well what it does is cause energy bubbles, like gas in your space. This happens when excitement turns to anxiety, not just when you are excited. What the bubbles do is they take up space, shoving your higher self out of your body, ungrounding you and keeping the space for the thing you are trying to attract occupied. You can only fill an empty tea cup, as the saying goes. With your higher self nowhere near to tell you when to turn right for the opportunity to get your Porche, you never turn right. Without being grounded you don't make the good decisions that lead to the bonus check that would have bought the Porche.
Not to mention that anxiety shows that you are not addressing some fear about receiving what you are wishing for. Anxiety comes from desperation, the feeling that it just has to happen. You can't let it go when you feel like that, you're too attached to it. You have to make peace with the possibility that it may never happen. I call it making peace with the alternative. If you let yourself be okay about the worst case scenario it helps you let go of the desperation. When I was attracting my husband using energy work I did a meditation where I saw myself as a single older woman who never married (or remarried in my case). I saw the long grey braid I've always wanted, I saw myself doing healing work on a woman with breast cancer, I saw the ranch I lived on with my horses and I was really happy. I told myself, "if this is my life without ever finding Mr. Right, I would be very happy with that." And I really felt that way. I knew that I would make a happy life for myself whether I met him or not because I wouldn't let not being with a man keep me from being happy.
So to recap: you need to know what you want, know how you feel about, shift the ways you feel about it that don't support you getting it, make yourself feel great about it, and let it go! Easy enough, right?
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